If the patriarchy had its way we would go from a Miss, the age old indicator of youth and virility to a Mrs; one possessed in marriage.
And if you don’t marry? Do you stay with a child title forever?
In this day and age is it time to say goodbye to Mrs and is embracing the Ms at 18 the right and feminist thing to do?
Primary school offer day is an emotional rollercoaster. The sleepless night before, the refreshing your emails and the anxiety about getting the school you want. But it’s so much more than just the school. It’s the sad crushing reality that your baby is growing up and entering the world.
I remember this with my first born but now it’s my youngest, my last baby, it feels different.
I am going to be 40 in a few months and I’m just wondering, when will I become a real life grown up?
I’m getting older for sure but is it just me that feels like I’m still not quite like all the others and am yet to reach womanhood?
In this post I talk about feeling like an imposter adult, what it means to be a woman and how society has created an idealised version of womanhood which is not realistic.
This is life according to the 3 year old. The age where tantrums are rife.
Have you ever tried to leave the house with a three year old when you are in a rush? Welcome to the land where putting on shoes takes a million years and if you dare cut their apple the wrong way you will be destroyed.
As a strong feminist could spend many an hour ranting and raving about all the BS women have to go through as the result of living in a society structured, constructed, managed and maintained by men at the top, but you know what is also a feminst issue?
The devaluation of fathers!
The role of a father is just as important and the narrative that men can just work and it has no impact on their children is false and damaging.
It robs our children of that precious time, it robs fathers of value and worth beyond rough and tumble and money earners, and it perpetuates the gender roles within families.
In this post I talk about how in order for us to really have equality in the workplace we need to stop devaluing the role of fathers in the home.
If you are a mum, you are very quickly put into a box. You are either a “working mum” or a “stay at home mum”. Because in society we love to label a mum. Where are all the “working dads” at?
In this post I unpack some of the problems with labelling mums, parental inequality and the devaluation of fathers, and how in order for women to truly be able to “have it all” something needs to shift.
Kids parties. Urgh what a mare!
Who to invite? The awkwardness of the parents. What food to make and the mistake that is hosting it at your home with no defined end time!
In this post I talk about the stress and spectacle that is kids birthday parties and why after the 1st birthday party I learnt a lot.
Having kids is the most magical thing, they bring so much joy and happiness, it is also the hardest thing, they bring so much stress and frustration.
After a whole summer holidays ending with 10 days of isolation, this house has become a real pressure pot, and kids really know how to push you to the brink of despair.
Zero personal space, constant noise and mess. Sound familiar?
This is the reality of day to day life living with little ones.
Parenthood is this weird club where one is required to seek out and befriend others who are also by default of having pushed a human out, part of the club.
Despite being seemingly extrovert and outgoing I am actually quite socially awkward and the idea of having to make chit chat with another random human fills me with absolute dread.
In this post I talk about the awkwardness of making mummy friends when you first become a parent and the horror that is baby group small talk!
Warning: Has all the toilet puns!
Potty training may seem like a piece of piss but the reality is it can be pretty challenging.
In this post I discuss the funny reality of what to expect from your toilet training kiddo and the realities of the shit you are likely to have to deal with.