What is the role of the stay at home parent? Is it to nurture and care for our children or is the unspoken expectation that your role is to do it all?
In this post I discuss the difference between what we expect from a paid childcare provider and what we expect from stay at home mums (or fathers) and whether society needs to rethink how it values the role of parents at home.
Don’t tell me you’re tired
Don’t tell me you’re tired, if you have no kids or work a nice 9-5 job and aren’t unwell, even if you really are bloody tired. Because this mama hasn’t slept through the night for 7 years and I’m gonna rant.
School Holidays
School holidays where family fun meets fights, tantrums, mess and a gazillion snack requests.
Becoming a ‘school mum’
So I’m now a ‘school mum’. How did I get here so fast?
Having avoided all the cliques at the playgroups here I am now with the actual real pressure to mingle and speak to parents in the wild.
In this post I talk about the awkwardness at the school gates, my ongoing imposter syndrome and my impressions of the other parents.
Ticking ‘Ms’: The right feminist thing to do?
If the patriarchy had its way we would go from a Miss, the age old indicator of youth and virility to a Mrs; one possessed in marriage.
And if you don’t marry? Do you stay with a child title forever?
In this day and age is it time to say goodbye to Mrs and is embracing the Ms at 18 the right and feminist thing to do?
Primary School Offer Day: My last bubba
Primary school offer day is an emotional rollercoaster. The sleepless night before, the refreshing your emails and the anxiety about getting the school you want. But it’s so much more than just the school. It’s the sad crushing reality that your baby is growing up and entering the world.
I remember this with my first born but now it’s my youngest, my last baby, it feels different.
The Three Year olds Guide to Life
This is life according to the 3 year old. The age where tantrums are rife.
Have you ever tried to leave the house with a three year old when you are in a rush? Welcome to the land where putting on shoes takes a million years and if you dare cut their apple the wrong way you will be destroyed.
Parental inequality, Damaging mum labels and the devaluation of fatherhood
If you are a mum, you are very quickly put into a box. You are either a “working mum” or a “stay at home mum”. Because in society we love to label a mum. Where are all the “working dads” at?
In this post I unpack some of the problems with labelling mums, parental inequality and the devaluation of fathers, and how in order for women to truly be able to “have it all” something needs to shift.
Boys with long hair
Why is it still such a big deal for boys to have long hair? Any parent with a son with long hair will have experienced the constant mistaking of their child’s gender, comments from others or pressure to cut their hair. And when your child goes off to school they face rejection by peers purely because their hair is different and “for girls.”
We must move towards a space where both boys and girls are not held into nonsensical constraints and norms.
Motherhood: The descent into not giving a damn
Since having kids have you noticed the slow descent into not giving a damn? Greasy hair? No bra? Looking like something the cats dragged in? Yup, that’s me!