What is it about being a stay at home mum or parent that gets to people?
Since I chose to quit my job to be home full time I am constantly questioned about when I intend to return to work and the inevitable “what do you do all day?”.
In this post I discuss why stay at home parents, and mothers in particular are undervalued this way and why we do not owe people an explanation.
I’m a mum not a maid
What is the role of the stay at home parent? Is it to nurture and care for our children or is the unspoken expectation that your role is to do it all?
In this post I discuss the difference between what we expect from a paid childcare provider and what we expect from stay at home mums (or fathers) and whether society needs to rethink how it values the role of parents at home.
Don’t tell me you’re tired
Don’t tell me you’re tired, if you have no kids or work a nice 9-5 job and aren’t unwell, even if you really are bloody tired. Because this mama hasn’t slept through the night for 7 years and I’m gonna rant.
School Holidays
School holidays where family fun meets fights, tantrums, mess and a gazillion snack requests.
Primary School Offer Day: My last bubba
Primary school offer day is an emotional rollercoaster. The sleepless night before, the refreshing your emails and the anxiety about getting the school you want. But it’s so much more than just the school. It’s the sad crushing reality that your baby is growing up and entering the world.
I remember this with my first born but now it’s my youngest, my last baby, it feels different.
Returning to life after lockdown: Mourning the loss of the family bubble
With lockdown easing with social distancing and mask wearing, what is the effect of the new normal on families? For many the end of lockdown means the end of a precious period of time with their family and a great sadness at the idea of returning to life where you live like passing ships. In this post I discuss the effect of lockdown easing measures on the family unit and family emotional health
Motherhood: The descent into not giving a damn
Since having kids have you noticed the slow descent into not giving a damn? Greasy hair? No bra? Looking like something the cats dragged in? Yup, that’s me!
Motherhood & Feminism: Quitting Your Job to be a ‘Stay at home Mum’
I wanted to have a family, a career and to be financially independent.
By putting my career on hold to look after my children am I reinforcing the stereotype of the mother and not furthering the pursuit for women’s equality in the workplace following childbirth?
By not working am I dependent on my male counterpart and not sending the right message to my children about women’s roles?
Feminism is about empowering women to make informed choices about their own lives but as a ‘stay at home mum’ I feel most judged and unsupported by other women and mums.
The Red Poo Incident
Have you ever been to A&E with your kid on a Friday night? Those times when you know it’s probably fine but you just want to be sure in case?
This post is all about the perils of Googling symptoms and a Friday night in A&E after a mystery Red poop!
The world according to a 4 Year Old
4 year olds are both hillarious and a handful. In this post I discuss the ups and downs of living with a fournager, the love and hugs, tears and tantrums, all that make the genius that is a 4 year old.